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Preparing siblings for baby’s arrival
Bringing home a new baby can really throw a wrench in the normal household routine.
Firstborn children and toddlers can especially feel threatened. Feelings of jealousy
are a common and normal occurrence. Siblings may become disruptive, more demanding,
aggressive, and even regress into infant-like behavior themselves. Often these feelings
are mixed with feelings of excitement and affection for the baby. Even the family pet may
feel a bit out of sorts with the addition of another family member. Not all is lost, though.
By using some simple strategies, you can help prepare your children for the arrival of your
new baby and lay the groundwork for positive sibling relationships.
Get them involved in the process
Children should be told about the new baby by the time you begin to show. Bring the
children to doctor’s appointments to hear the baby’s heart beat and see the
ultrasound. It makes them feel a part of your pregnancy. The kids can also be included
in picking out the baby’s name, decorating the nursery and selecting toys and
clothing for the baby.
Educate them
Children are naturally curious and will want to know what’s going on in mommy’s
belly and what will happen once the baby’s born. Talk to your children about the changes
you are going through and about the delivery openly and honestly, but give them the information
on their timetable. Take the time to answer their questions as they come up. Children, especially
young children will have a difficult time grasping the concept of what is happening. There are
many excellent books available. Ask your pediatrician or obstetrician for book suggestions.
Showing your children photos of themselves as newborns can help them visualize what newborns
are like.
Also, talk to them about how to treat the newborn. Emphasize the ways they can have a safe and
fun time together. Older children should learn how to play with the baby, how they can communicate,
and what the baby’s behavior will be.
Many hospitals offer classes to prepare children for the
arrival of the new baby. Classes are usually on a few hours long and cover topics such as learning
to hold the baby, newborn behavior, and what it’s like to be a big brother or sister. In
addition, there is often a tour of the maternity area of the hospital.
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